Coping When Close Colleagues Are Let Go

While surviving a round of layoffs might initially bring relief, once that initial response is over, it can be replaced by what many call “survivor’s guilt.” This is the complex set of emotions that many may experience with feelings of “why them and not me” or “why not me too.”

These emotions are real and understandable. A few thoughts on ways to navigate this:

Acknowledge Your Emotions

Acknowledge what you’re feeling. Sadness, guilt, or even anxiety about these outcomes are natural. These emotions might feel conflicting, but remember, it’s okay to feel grateful for still having a job while mourning the loss of colleagues. Talk to coworkers and friends about it. They can be a great support, and some will have a shared experience.

Support Your Colleagues

When you’re laid off, your remaining coworkers might hesitate to reach out, unsure if it’s appropriate. Let them know it is. Supporting laid-off colleagues not only helps them cope but also allows you to navigate the emotions and realities together. Offer to provide references, connect them with your network, or share job leads.

Reframe Your Perspective

It’s important to remember that layoffs aren’t personal. Business decisions are often based on a complex mix of financial and strategic factors. You were retained because your role, you, and your work remain critical to the organization, not because your colleagues were less deserving.

Take Care of Yourself

Experiencing survivor guilt can be mentally exhausting, so prioritize some time to take care of yourself in the short term. Engage in activities that relax and invigorate you, whether exercise, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones. Maintaining your mental health will improve your ability to stay productive and supportive.

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